The age old question.. why do people cheat on each other when in relationships?
Men are ruled by visuals while women are ruled by emotions. I guess that explains why the porn industry is a female dominated industry fueled by men’s money, and why Danielle Steele books are always best sellers.
I think that both genetics and environment play a role when it comes to cheating. Let’s get this straight – the fact that men, for thousands of years, have been the “chasers” and are genetically pre-disposed to spreading their seed far and wide does NOT excuse men for cheating on their women. It does however, play a part in the reason why they cheat. Men love to chase. They will wine and dine you, bring you flowers, show you off to their friends – all while pursuing you. Why does that all end when you finally enter into a “monogamous” relationship? Because the chase is over! They’ve got what they wanted. Now what? It may be weeks, months or even years before your man actually considers cheating on you. He may or may not follow through at that time. Don’t be fooled – he’s cheated on you from day 1 in his imagination! Why? Because men are all about having what they can’t have. The elusive chase.
I know you don’t want to hear this ladies,  but we women play a role in our men cheating. We make sure that our make up and hair is perfect, we work out at the gym regularly, and we look good.. while we are dating, and often even into the first part of being in a relationship with our man. BUT once we get comfortable with him being there when we come home from work and seeing us wake up with bed-head and raccoon eyes, we slowly let ourselves go. We put on our hoody and sweats when we get home from work, instead of our hip-hugger jeans.. we put on our pink cotton bathrobe when we get out of bed on Sunday morning that we’ve had since college instead of slipping on a cute tshirt and short shorts, too many nights of “Not tonight, I’m tired” or “I’ve gotta get up early tomorrow”. Whether you like it or not, ladies, our men have to continue to be visually, and physically, stimulated.. or they’ll start looking elsewhere.
Women, on the other hand, are emotional by nature. Every man knows that helping your lady with the dishes, giving her a backrub or running her a bubble bath means that your night is probably going to end with great sex. Why? Because the more you take care of your women OUTSIDE of the bedroom, the better she’ll take care of you INSIDE the bedroom! Women are easy to figure out – compliment us (and genuinely mean it), snuggle up with us on the couch (and don’t try to get us to blow you while we’re in the middle of a show), take us out for dinner, surprise us by helping out around the house without us having to ask or nag you.. these things are women’s foreplay. Oh, and speaking of foreplay.. most women need some time to warm up before you go for the gold. Set out some candles, undress us slowly, caress us.. make us FEEL like you give a shit.
So, why do women cheat? One word – NEGLECT. In the beginning, when you were chasing your lady, you called her just to hear her voice, showed up at her work to take her for lunch, looked (and smelled) good when you went out clubbin’, asked her questions, and listened to her bitch about her friends. Once it was a done deal, the interest in your lady slowly subsided. You came home from work and took up residence in front of the TV with your beer, started leaving your rolled-up smelly socks by the front door, made a ritual of going out to watch UFC on the big screen at your local sports bar with the boys every Friday night.. instead of spending time with us.
As much as you boys need to be visually and physically stimulated, we women need to be emotionally cared for and intellectually stimulated. We like talking. We like you to listen. When we ask how your day was, we want more than “Fine”. We want YOU to ask US how OUR day was.. and not walk away as we’re telling you about it! For every man who is uninterested in their woman, there are several other men who are definitely interested in your woman! So.. if you wanna hold onto your lady – PAY ATTENTION TO HER.